"Don't make me count to Three" Chapters 3-4

 Chapter 3-4 Overview

Basically for those of you just joining in on these Book Overviews, what we are doing is going through "Parenting in the Pew" and "Don't make me count to Three." I give you a week or two to read through some chapters and then I give a brief (well sometimes) overview of the book.. I highlight what I think stood out in that chapter and then I post it for you all to read. So join in with us!  

Chapter 3-4

Drawing issues out from the Heart

We should seek to understand what is in the heart of our children as well as show them how to understand and evaluate what is in their hearts.

When you help your child understand what is in his heart, you are teaching him to evaluate his own motives, which will help to equip him for his walk with Christ as he grows into an adult. And as we saw in Proverbs 31, "such a child will grow up and call his mother blessed."

• God has given us His Word and He expects us to use it in training our children. 

When issues are not directly addressed in the Bible, He has given us open communication with Him through prayers. He tell us in James 1:5, "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him."

 1 Corinthians says, "Love is not rude"

Your first objection in correction must be not to tell your child how you feel about what they have done or said but to draw out the cause of the behavior.

Draw out the attitude of the heart by asking heart-related questions. You must help them in order to understand what is going on inside them. So look at the world through their eyes.

So we all know that when we figure something else out on our own we are more likely to remember it. So when your child learns how to recognize what is in his own heart, he is more likely to demonstrate godly responses on his own. in doing this he is growing in wisdom.

Here are some questions you can ask to get to the heart of the problem:

• What were you feeling when you hit your sister?
• What did you sister do to make you mad?
• Did hitting her seem to make things better or worse between you two?
• What was the problem with what she was doing to you?

Gods Word is profitable and beneficial for all ages. God's word NEVER changes...

So in all conflicts we should begin our training by seeking to understand the nature of the internal conflict that is expressed in the outward behaviour. For probing their heart, teaching them how to think like christians, and helping them discern the matters of their hearts, there are three issues to walk then through:

1.What was the nature of the temptation?

2.How did he respond to the temptation?

3.What other ways could have been responded that would have been better?

So encourage yourself to pull out what is in the heart of your child, work through how your child can replace what is wrong witht what is right, and then have your hild put what he has learned into practice. That is how to train them in righteousness.

Remember this is a process, and will not happen over night.

"Don't make me count to three": A moms look at heart-oriented discipline

by:Ginger Plowman

"Parenting in the Pew" Chapters 3-4

(Chapter 3-4 Overview)

Basically for those of you just joining in on these Book Overviews, what we are doing is going through "Parenting in the Pew" and "Don't make me count to Three." I give you a week or two to read through some chapters and then I give a brief (well sometimes) overview of the book.. I highlight what I think stood out in that chapter and then I post it for you all to read. So join in with us! 

Chapter 3

God delights in children, in their expectancy, in their vulnerability and ability to believe. These are gifts of grace that children bring to a church family. Parenting in the pew encourages children to participate in the life of a church, to share these gifts of unfettered faith and expectation. Children can enhance the worship of God for the whole congregation.

Children Believe:

Children are a symbol of the kingdom, indeed the "greatest" in the kingdom. (Matthew records, At the time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?" He called a little child and had him stand among them. And He said: " I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever welcomes a little child like this in my name welcomes me." Matthew 18:1-5)

We need children in our churches. They can remind us vividly what it means to be great believers. Young children have the capacity to accept as truth what is told to them by adults. Even at fairly early ages they can learn to tell the difference between the imaginary and the real if this distinction is made by trusted adults. But children delight in believing what adults find difficult to swallow. The ideas of faith we share need careful telling.

• Children are willing to believe, and this mans that their hearts have great capacity for worship
• Parents are the best people to teach their children what it means to worship God. 
  
• Children help us to pay attentions to what God is really saying.... 
  
  
  
  
  Chapter 4
  
  
  
  • Sunday Morning should be a time of joyous expectation for a family who loves the Lord. But too often it is a morning riddles with strife and filled with regret. 

  There is a way to turn the hearts of our children to worship and take the worry and worn out from the Sunday-Morning agenda. The key lies in another, better "w" word:work.
  
  Worship is work, hard work. It is also rewarding work. To worship the Lord "in spirit and in truth" does not come easily, and it certainly does not come naturally to us. It is difficult to worship on the leftover energy of a long week and a late Saturday. The Sunday morning encounter with God is worthy of our best energy, not our least.
  
  
  
  Note: Worship should not just be on Sunday Morning. This book refers to Sunday Momrning alot but every time we step foot in Gods house for church we should be ready to worship.
  
  • Worship is loving the Lord with an attitude. (a good attitude.)

  Parenting in the Pew comes with an attitude check.
  
  • Teaching our children to worship, is a sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving that God rejoices to receive.
  • Teaching our children to tithe can help develop a generous attitude about giving praise, time, goods and blessing to God. 

  
  
  • Children need to sense our excitement about worship with God's people.  
  • Keeping Sunday simple can help keep Sunday special for God.

  
  God is worthy of our worship. The call to worship centers on the One who calls us. This call is not a friendly suggestion but a loving command.
  God sees us. He sees our posture, our faces, our antics, and he knows our hearts and minds.
  Well so does our children. Lead in good example!
  
  
  
  
  
  
  Parenting in the Pew: Guiding your children into the joy of worship
  
  by: Robbie Castleman
  
  Forward by: Ruth Bell Graham
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

{A Quick Note From A Sweet Godly Women:Mrs. Tallman}

This is a note from Mrs. Tallman. She wrote me on Facebook and I wanted to share this with you all. I thought it might be a book you all would like to get as well.

This is what she had to say:

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I had a tidbit to share with you and all the other young moms I know. Thanks giving is my very favorite holiday. There is a wonderful CD called "Thanksgivigin: A Time to Remember". 

It also comes with a book for family reading. The CD is the story of the Pilgrims journey to America, the hardships they endured, and most importantly, God's faithfulness in caring and providing for them. It is historically accurate, being taken from the journals of the Pilgrims. The narrative is by the man with the English accent complete with sound effects.

It is delightful and it is a wonderful teaching tool for parents. It is published by Barbara Rainey and Family Life. There are also some wonderful works out about Squanto and how God prepared him for the special job of helping the Pilgrims.

Mrs. Tallman

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Since Thanksgiving is coming up very soon we do need to be considering how we are going to share with our Children the story of Thanksgiving. How it came about and why we are thankful.

Starting November 1st-- I am going to start a Month of thankfullness. 

Each Day (Monday-Friday) I will post a quick thing that either my husband,my children, or I am thankful for. If you would like to join in, I would love for you too. You don't have to post a comment everyday. Just send one comment about the things you are thankful for. 

Share this with other people and lets all share what we are thankful for. 

Thanks!

 

Parenting: 3 recommended books to help with Discipline

Parenting: Recommended Books to help with Discipline

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what it is you are trying to accomplish as a parent? What exactly is your objective?
I know we have all heard these sayings," 'Do you want a spanking?' 'If you don't straighten up your going to get it.' 'You don't want me to come in there.' 'You just wait til your dad gets home.' " Sound Familiar? No matter how you phrase these statements all of them have one thing in common: They aid parents in avoiding discipline issues.
All parents want their children to obey. Some bribe, some use time out, others ignore acts of disobedience, and some threaten. Could it be that parents avoid these issues b/c they are uncertain of how to handle them?
We mothers can tend to think that after a child's birth the hard part is over. We endured months of morning sickness, were shocked by the changes pregnancy wrought on our bodies, and even survived the delivery process itself. What a surprise it was to think that the hard part was just beginning!

Wow! Now what? Right?

Well, I am in the process of reading these three books that I would love for you to pick up and read along with me. I am going to post comments on what I am reading and also give my opinion on the books and the advice it is giving. I think alot of us moms need advice or encouragement on how to discipline our children. Hopefully this will be a fun and helpful way of incorporating discipline into the blog.

Book 1.) "Teach Them Diligently"

How to Use the Scripture in Child Training

By: Lou Priolo

Book 2.) "Parenting in the Pew"

Guiding your Children into the Joy of Worship

By: Robbie Castleman

Forword by: Ruth Bell Graham

Book 3.) "Don't Make me Count to Three"

A Moms look at Heart Oriented Discipline

By: Ginger Plowman

So like I said, pick up one or all of these books and follow along with me as I read through them!!